The Products I use on My Natural Haired family

The Products  use on My Natural Haired Family (The product wrapped in brown paper is my African Black Soap)
This is just a quick post on the products I use on my children’s and my hair, as I get asked quite a lot on what I use and how I use it. 

Wash days

On my children I’ll either use Naturalelle’s African Black soap or I’ll use Creme of Nature moisturising sulfate free shampoo.
I’ll use the creme of nature sulfate shampoo too. I do not use the black soap on my hair as it darkens the blonde in my hair while I’m trying to maintain it at a light shade.For our deep conditioning treatment we will use Creme of Nature intensive conditioning treatment.

Also every other week, I’ll use Naturalelle’s Bentonite clay as a shampoo on mine and my daughter’s hair. To get the recipe for bentonite clay mask click here

As a sealant we will use Naturalelle’s Cold Pressed Coconut Oil. As a leave in conditioner we will use keracare and then we would use my shea butter mix hair cream that I make. You can find the recipe here.

After this process I will twist my daughter’s hair. For my son even though he hasn’t much hair as he is taken to the barbers every 3-4 weeks, his dad and I decided that we wanted him to have a high top for the summer so at the moment we are currently growing his hair out and as I want it to be in the best condition it can be while growing his hair he now has weekly deep conditioning treatments too and everything else I put on my daughter’s hair I put on his.

In between Wash days

To keep their hair moisturised at night I will spray their hair using a water bottle. The spray mixture is my detangling mixture which consists of water, oil and leave in conditioner. To find out how to detangle in 10 mins using my mixture click here and then I will apply a little of the shea butter mix to their hair and put a headscarf on for bed
In the morning I usually don’t put anything on their hair as their hair is still moisturised from the night before.
I also do the same for myself but as my hair is shorter I get a tangle teezer and work the product through my hair.

I hope that’s answered your questions and let us know what products you like to use on your hair.

Detangling your Natural Hair

DetanglingDuring my natural hair journey, I realised that my curls were not as tight as most natural haired women and so I never had problems with detangling my hair. I would detangle my hair in under 10 minutes while I was in the shower using a conditioner and a wide toothed comb, but when I involved my daughter in the natural hair movement, I started to realise that the method I used for detangling my hair was not going to work fo her’s especially if she had been wearing her twists in for 2-3 weeks. So I started to research and try to find the best way to detangle Phoenix’s hair that would also include no breakage and came across an oil, water and conditioner method but you had to keep putting one after the other on each section of the hair which I did not have time for. So her dad, who is a women’s hairdresser told me to put all three (water, oil & conditioner) in a spray bottle and wet each section of the hair and then detangle as required. I also used a Tangle teezer as well and started from ends to root, gently detangling her hair.

This method works well and detangling Phoenix’s hair has now gone  from detangling in 1hr to detangling in 15 minutes.

When is detangling best done

Detangling your tresses is best done before you shampoo it.

What tools & Products do I need

  • A seamless comb or a Tangle Teezer or a Wide Toothed comb
  • An Oil of your choice – I like to use Naturalelle’s Cold Pressed Coconut Oil
  • A conditioner – I like to use the Keracare natural conditioner or Curly Q (depends whats in the bathroom at the time)
  • Water
  • Spray bottle – to put all 3 ingredients in

How do I detangle using this method

Firstly using your fingers gently section the hair. Work on one section at a time and spray your hair using your spray bottle with the concoction that you would have previously made. Ensure you spray the section of hair well. Then with whatever tool you have chosen to use, start working through the section of you hair from root to tip to detangle. After you detangled the section of hair twist it as this will help in preventing it from detangling again when you go to wash it.

If you click here, Jenelle from Kinky Curly Coily me has done a youtube video of exactly what I’ve mentioned above to help you out also

Once I’ve detangled Phoenix’s hair then I wash and deep conditon as usual. You can find more about that here.

What methods do you use to detangle your hair?


Why do a Pre-poo treatment on you hair

Pre-poo treatment 2 weeks ago I decided to do a pre poo treatment on my daughter’s hair. I’d never done one before and decided that this year I was really going to go all out in caring for my daughter’s hair. My daughter’s hair when stretched is down the middle of her back and she experiences a lot of shrinkage so when I style her hair from wet, without any blowdrying or stretching it will sit on her collarbone. 4 years ago her hair was in a horrible state, breaking, dry and very brittle as I did not know how to look after her hair, but fast forward to today where I only blowdry her hair twice a year when she gets her twice yearly trims, deep condition it every week and only comb her hair on wash days when wet and saturated with conditioner, she now has a healthy head of hair which she is very proud to show off to anyone that compliments her about it. So this year I wanted to go the extra mile and really baby her hair by doing pre poo treatments, finger combing those tangles (which believe me takes a lot of time and patience especially when you have a very boisterous two year old running about the house, a business to run and a house to keep) deep conditioning and ensuring that her hair is always styled in a protective yet likeable style to keep a seven year old happy.

I always knew about the benefits of pre poo treatments but never bothered with them as I simply never had the time and just wanted ‘wash hair day’ to be over with as quickly as possible, but since starting 2014 reading Joyce Meyer  Making good habits, breaking bad habits, my habit of excellence has not just improved my working habits but has spilled over to my personal, fitness, health and family life. And now I just want to do things in a proper manner no matter how long it takes.

A pre poo treatment can be done with a carrier oil or conditioner and applied to damp hair before you shampoo it.

The Benefits of a pre-poo treatment:

  • protects the ends of your hair
  • keeps your hair moisturised while washing
  • helps when detangling
  • nourishes your scalp and roots
  • Softens your hair

Most people suggest in just using a carrier oil like extra virgin olive oil or a conditioner. I think conditioners are too expensive to be using it for a pre poo treatment and I used more than one oil for this treatment.

My Pre-poo treatment recipe:

  • 3 tablespoons of cold pressed coconut oil
  • 2 tablespoons of extra virgin olive oil
  • 2 tablespoons of Castor Oil

Firstly I warmed the oils in a pot for a few seconds and let it cool down til it reached a warm temperature. (I don’t own a microwave but if you were to do this in a microwave then 10 seconds will be all you need) I wet Phoenix’s hair and then got a towel and wrapped it around her hair to collect the excess water. Do not rub the hair with the towel as this can cause breakage. I then applied the warm pre-poo treatment to Phoenix’s hair ensuring that I applied the oil from root to tip and massaged the oil into her scalp. I then wrapped her hair with cling film (you can use a plastic or shower cap) and left it on her hair for 30 minutes. You can also leave it on overnight. I then washed her hair with shampoo, deep conditioned it and styled as usual.

After you shampoo your hair you will notice the difference of how your hair feels. It will feel soft and moisturised. I couldn’t stop touching Phoenix’s hair.

Why did I choose those 3 oils?

Olive oil helps in softening your hair and making it more manageable. Due to the fatty acids that make up the olive oil, it coats your hair keeping it healthy and protected.

Coconut Oil helps in repairing damaged hair, and is also anti-fungal making it a natural preventative for dandruff.

Castor Oil helps to stimulate growth when massaged into the scalp.

Where Can I buy the ingredients?

  • The cold pressed coconut oil you can buy directly from Naturalelle just click here
  • The extra virgin olive oil can be bought from any supermarket in the oil aisle
  • I bought my Castor oil from here

What oil or oils do you like to use for a pre-poo treatment?




My Aphogee Two Step Protein Treatment Review

2014-01-31 15.50.55The reason for me doing a review on Aphogee’s protein treatment is due to my hair being badly damaged. I did my roots again on 2nd January and if you’ve seen my hair you know that I have been dying my hair blonde for the last 7 years, and my hair has been good with it. No shedding, no breakage, my hair has been healthy. But since the last time I dyed it, my hair has been shedding non stop. My hair line is broken and I am in bits about the state my last peroxide fix has left my hair in.

At the moment my hair is lacking a considerable amount of protein and my homemade protein treatment is not strong enough to repair the damage that has been left. I did a few researches on what protein treatment I should use and Aphogee’s came up tops.

So the bottle normally costs around £15 and just incase it didn’t work in my hair I bought the sachet instead which costs around £2.50, I bought two of the sachets as I know that my hair is very thick and one sachet was not going to be enough.

How To ApplyFirst I washed my hair with a clarifying shampoo to ensure that I got rid of all of the product build up and to ensure that there was nothing in my hair to prevent this treatment from working to its fullest potential.

I then towel dried my hair and applied the treatment at the root. Then with my hands I worked the treatment all the way down to the ends. I then got a wide tooth comb and combed through the treatment to ensure that the treatment had covered all of my hair.

I then dried my hair with the treatment in with a hand held hair dryer. You can also sit under a hooded dryer as well. Make sure that you have not covered you hair with any plastic cap of any kind.

My hair took about 20 minutes to try. Now once its dry your hair will go rock hard due to the protein treatment. Do not comb or brush your hair at this point as your hair will just snap off. Rinse your hair under warm water gently running your hands down the hair to remove the protein.

Once you’ve thoroughly washed out the protein, towel dry your hair a little and then add Aphogee’s Balancing moisturizer. It’s important that you put this in your hair after the protein treatment as this will bring your hair back to the PH balance that it should be. Leave this in for 2 minutes and then rinse out and style your hair as you would normally.


I really like what the treatment has done to my hair. When I combed my hair this morning (I done the treatment last night) there was a noticeable difference on how much hair came out in the comb. The amount of hair was a normal amount (we shed about 100 hairs a day) to be in the comb and when I ran my hands through my hair once it was dried no hair came out in my hands. My hair is soft but not mushy and my hair can be stretched also. I will definitely be using this every 6 weeks. The only qualm I do have is I wished I had used this before I had dyed my roots. My hair would be in a much healthier state today.

Have you had any hair disasters and what did you do to repair it?

Eliminating dry ends with oils


A few days ago I noticed that the ends of my hair were really dry and although my hair is bleach blonde I’m pretty good at maintaining the health of my hair with colour and knew that it had something to do with the harsh weather and me not keeping my ends covered so I decided to try a hot oil treatment before washing my hair which I have never tried doing before.

What will you need?

2 tablespoons of Cold Pressed Coconut Oil
1 tablespoon of Cold Pressed Jojoba Oil
1 tablespoon of Olive oil

The Method

Put the oils together in a bowl and put the bowl over a pot of boiling water that is simmering on the cooker. Heat the oils until they are warm not hot and apply over damp hair from root to tip. Cover your hair with a clean shower cap or cling film and leave on for 20 mins. Wash hair as normal


Always do this before you wash your hair
Do this once a month
The treatment also helps to maintain and prevent protein loss

After I had tried the treatment my hair felt soft and my ends felt moisturised. I will definitely add this to my hair regime.

What other treatments do you like applying to your hair?


My 20 day Oil Pulling challenge


I’ve been meaning to do the oil pulling since August last year but due to my ever-growing habit of procrastination (Which I am combatting this month due to Joyce Meyer’s book Making good habits, breaking bad habits which I strongly suggest anyone to read if they want to form good habits) I started my oil pulling challenge today.

What triggered me to start the challenge was due to the great benefits that individuals were going on about since they had started adding the oil pulling to their health regime. Great Dental hygiene, healthier gums, whiter teeth,  being alert in the morning (no need for coffee) and increases the rate of your metabolism.

Oil pulling is an ancient practice where you take a tablespoon of unrefined cold pressed oil such as coconut oil, sesame oil or Sunflower oil and swish and pull it through your teeth in your mouth for 20 minutes. As today was my first day I only swished and pulled my coconut oil around my mouth for 10 minutes and as the days go on I will eventually be doing it for 20 mins.

Once you’ve swished it around your mouth, spit the oil out in your toilet and not the sink as the toxins may contaminate the sink area. Your oil should be a milky colour, if its clear then you have not pulled it in your mouth for long enough. Rinse your mouth out with salty water and then brush your teeth.

My verdict so far is that I didn’t feel the benefits of being alert as I am always alert in the mornings due to me running 3 times a week (but then this is still day 1 after all), but after pulling with my cold pressed coconut oil  my mouth still feels clean and tingly almost 7 hours later and I’ve eaten a meal. I will definitely stick to this challenge as I am excited to see what other benefits I will gain as the days go on and hopefully make it a permanent fixture in my healthcare regime.

What great benefits did Oil pulling bring to you?

How To Use Bentonite Clay as a Shampoo

During the last 2-3 weeks I’ve been getting quite a lot of text messages and emails regarding using Bentonite Clay as a shampoo and how to use it and what to mix it with. So I’ve decided to do a mini tutorial on how to use Bentonite Clay on your hair. This can be used on any hair type.

Why would I use Bentonite Clay in my hair?

Due to the natural properties of Bentonite Clay, it acts as a cleanser pulling toxins, ailments to the surface or scalp for you to wash away. It is great at getting rid of your product build up and promotes healthy scalp. Its not harsh on your hair at all. After you’ve used the clay in your hair you will notice that your hair is much softer and if you have curls then the clay will definitely define your curls after using it.

What do I need?

Bentonite Clay

Apple Cider Vinegar or Aloe Vera Juice or Water


A plastic container

A plastic spoon

The use of plastic tools is vital. If metal is used to make this mixture then it will cause a reaction with the clay making the clay useless in what its supposed to do which is pulling toxins from inside your body to the surface.

Put 4 large tablespoons of clay in the container. Add your Apple cider vinegar, water or Aloe vera juice to the clay and mix until you get a thick smooth consistency. (I like to use Apple cider vinegar)

Add a couple of teaspoons of honey to the mixture and mix well.

Bentonite Clay mix

How do I apply it to my hair?

Section your hair in 4-6 sections and apply the clay with your hands to your hair. Starting from root and ending at the tips of your hair. Your whole head should now be covered in the Bentonite Clay mix

Bentonite Clay on natural hair

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To avoid the clay from drying wrap your hair in a plastic cap or in cling film and leave the clay on for 20-25 minutes.

Bentonite clay on natural hair

Wash the clay out thoroughly with luke warm water and notice the difference. Your scalp will be clean, your hair softer and if you have curls or coils they will be more defined.Bentonite Clay on natural hair

You can now style your hair as usual or you can deep condition your hair afterwards. The choice is yours.

I also like to use the same Bentonite Clay recipe mix as a face mask as well and apply on my face and body. To find out more click here

Do you use the bentonite clay as part of your hair and skin routine? If so what tips do you have? I’m always on the look out for ways to revamp my Bentonite clay mix



Basic Guide in maintaining healthy natural hair

> on January 13, 2012 in Los Angeles, California.Last week I taught a workshop on how to look after hair and skin naturally which has prompted me to write this post. I somehow assumed that everyone knew how to take care of natural afro hair but was mistaken and realised that there is a whole lot of people out there who are still in the dark. So below is just a basic guide for beginners on how to ensure healthy, long natural hair.


You should wash no more than once a week and use sulfate free shampoos as sulfate actually strips your hair of the natural oils which we are trying to keep on our hair to keep it moisturised.

If you exercise regularly and feel that your hair will benefit from more than a once a week wash then you can co wash your hair. This is when you wash your with a silicone free conditioner Click here for more deets on that method.

And remember that the longer your hair gets the less you should be washing it as it will tangle more which provides an opportunity for breakage.

Long hair takes longer to get greasy

The longer your hair is, the dryer the ends because the natural oils produced by your scalp finds it difficult to navigate through your curls and coils to get to the ends.


You should deep condition your hair once a week. If you’re like me and do not have time to sit under a dryer for 25-30 mins then wrap your hair in cling film or plastic cap and get on with your day. If this is the case though then i would leave your hair in the deep condition for about an hour instead of the 30 mins.

This one is optional but I like to do it on my daughter’s hair, which is a protein treatment. Do this once a month and its so easy and inexpensive if you make it your self. Just whip up one egg and then mix the whipped egg in a bowl with your favourite conditioner and apply it to our hair. Wrap your hair in cling film or plastic cap and leave on for about 30-35 mins.


Do not attempt to comb, brush or detangle your hair in its dry state as this will definitely cause breakage to your hair.

Always comb/detangle your hair when its wet and a conditioner has been applied to your hair to add slip so that your comb or detangler can manoeuvre through your curls and coils with ease.

The best comb to use is a wide tooth comb or a detangler.

Moisturising your Tresses

The #1 moisturiser for your hair is water. (I know I’m shocked too) Water actually softens your hair and keeps it hydrated making your hair less prone to breakage.

Keep a spray bottle filled with water (Preferably filtered) and spritz your hair with it at least twice a day, morning and night.

Once you’ve spritzed your hair with a little water ensure you apply natural oils and butters on your hair such as Shea butter, Coconut oil, Jojoba oil, Olive oil, Argan oil and Castor oil.

Your hair at bedtime

At night moisturise your hair with the method I’ve mentioned above and put your hair in two strand twists.

Sleep with a satin/silk bonnet and for double protection you can also sleep on satin/silk pillowcases. I only sleep on satin pillowcases. I don’t like having anything on my head while I sleep.

How should I wear my hair during the day

To maintain healthy, natural hair, its best to wear your hair in protective styles. A protective style is when you put your hair up (Without pulling those edges) and hide the ends (This is optional)

Protective styles are worn to prevent breakage and should be worn in extreme weather conditions.  So when it’s really hot, really cold, rainy and windy.

This is how I like to wear my hair and its protective too;

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Is braiding a protective style?

Yes braiding is a protective style but here are a few tips to help keep your hair on your head when its time to take those braids out;

  • Do not do tiny braids as this can lead to breakage
  • Try braiding your hair without the use of extensions
  • You must still wash, deep condition and moisturise your hair while its in braids
  • Don’t put large hair extensions on small parts of your hair as this will cause tension and stress to your hair which will ultimately result in breakage.

Are there any products that I shouldn’t use on my hair?

There are certain ingredients that are found in some products that should be avoided as these ingredients will cause your hair to dry out which in turn will lead to breakage, clogged pores which are not great if you want to maintain and ensure healthy hair. Below are a list of ingredients that you should avoid;

  • Sulfates incl Sodium laureth sulfate and Sodium lauryl sulfate
  • Silicones (Any ingredient ending in ‘cone’ is a silicone)
  • Gluten
  • PABA
  • Parabens
  • Paraffin
  • Petrolateum
  • phthalates
  • propylene glycol

As I said before this is just a basic guide and you can tweak methods to what your hair responds to best.

I’d love to hear of your tips and methods on how you maintain healthy natural hair. So share them in the comment section below.


What is co wash and why do I need to do it?


I’ve been doing a few markets recently and have come across a whole bunch of beautiful ladies who are still in the dark about how to take care of their natural, relaxer free hair which has prompted me to write this post.

Co washing is when you wash your hair with a conditioner instead of a shampoo. This can be done for all hair types. The reason a curly haired girl would co wash their hair is because when the scalp produces its natural oils, they have quite a difficult time in trying to find its way to the ends of their hair due to the hairs coils and curls. Where as straight hair ladies have no problem in that department as the natural oils just glides down their hair as there is only one direct route to their ends.

Now I know that conditioners are only known for its use to moisturise hair but they also contain gentle cleansers as well which is why some women only co wash and never use shampoos.

If you do decide to make co wash a regular attribute on your hair wash days then there are a few things that you need to know;

  • Stay away from siliicones in your hair care as using these will lead to product build up which your conditioner will have a hard time in washing out. To spot the silicone ingredients just look on your hair products packaging for ingredients and any ingredient that ends in cone is a silicone.
  • You can co wash as many times as you like. But beware that there is such a thing as over conditioning which will lead to your hair feeling very mushy and spongy. If this happens stop for a while with the co wash
  • Don’t go out and buy the most expensive one, choose a fairly cheap one which is silicone free to wash your hair with.
  • Try to avoid protein based conditioners as they can cause breakage
  • Best of all, adding co wash into your wash hair routine will help in keeping your hair hydrated and helps in eliminating some of that frizz that us curlies seems to experience on more days than we would like.

For me personally I wash my hair once a week. I always alternate the weeks, so one week I’ll co wash my hair and the next week I’ll shampoo my hair. If I wanted to, I could co wash my hair only as I don’t use any products that have silicone in them but I love the suds that the shampoo makes which I miss when co washing.

Would you or do you co wash? And if you do co wash what conditioners do you love using?